Im 13... question about ?

Matthew in today's world, especially here in America there are a multitude of different signals that get thrown your way as a young teen. So let's start with where you are. You've obviously done quite a bit together and are probably a little ahead of the curve when it come what most 13year olds have experienced. That's not to say it isn't uncommon, just not as normal as teens think but a lot more than what most adults perceive. Having said that, my first reaction would be to ask you why you think you need to stop? There isn't a game here that says you have to do it so many times in so many ways or whatever. You've made the choice, you've done the deed, there isn't any going back. But there is always tomorrow. If for whatever reason, you or she, or both of you decide that things were going to fast and that you want to slow down or stop for awhile, then you have the power to make that choice. But you need to communicate that choice and your desires. There will always be people telling you to do it, or not to do it. How you determined that choice, doesn't really matter so much as how you determine your choices today and tomorrow. can be a wonderful and great thing that can bring people close together or simply relieve some pent up stress. But it can also be a very deeply convicting and painful experience if it happens in the wrong context or with the wrong person. The bottom line is about choices. You have the power to make them. You've made some choices, right or wrong, you made them and will live with the consequences of them, good and bad the rest of your life. That being said, as much as you feel like you've got the world on a string, we all need a dose of reality now and again to remind ourselves that we always have things to learn. At 13 you still need the freedom to be a kid, to screw up and have your parents or some other adult step in for you. You need to feel the joy and excitement, but also the pain and hurt that relationship bring before you start to think about something long term. And especially about the consequences of having . Besides all the STD's and what not, having a baby is a very real consequence of having . Your plumbing has only been working for a couple years if that. And as much as you think you might be (Lord knows I thought I did) you are not ready to be a father. You aren't even ready to be a husband. There is so much life still before you. Sure, have fun, enjoy life, but make sure that the choices you make today are along the lines of what you want tomorrow. The biggest mistake we make as teens is to think that I have to have whatever I want, today, who cares about tomorrow. But in the long run, tomorrow is what really matters. You may have the greatest girl you could wish for right now. But have you really thought about it might mean to wake up with her for the rest of you life? What about all the possible other girls that you may want to date as you grow? Each relationship brings it's own strengths, weaknesses and challenges and each one is an opportunity to grow. At 13, as much as hurts to hear it, there is still a lot to learn. Heck I'm twice your age and the more I learn the more I realize I have more to learn. Matthew, for whatever reason you are questioning the decision to keep having with this girl, you need to take a step back and really get a grasp of what it is you really want. Enjoy yourself, enjoy being in love and being intimate with someone. But also realize that each time you are intimate with someone, you take a piece of them and give a piece of you. If you aren't 100% sure that she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with (and who can really know for sure) then maybe it is time to talk with her about where the two of you are in your relationship. 13 is hard, we are driven so much more by the little head between our legs than the big head on our shoulders. But there are times of incredibly deep thoughts. Use those to make some choices about the kind of life you really want. Then remember, that only you can really make that choice. Good luck buddy,